An Advice
To meet a young, energetic and fun-loving lady is always a treasure for a man. As I only knew her for a few days, it's like we have known each other for years and we are open to learn more about each other, talking about life and the struggles with it.
While having our dinner tonight, with her chicken rice and my chicken kunyit with rice while eating with our hands, we talked about a few things in our lives including our love life (or lack thereof for my side), my age (well, for me I don't usually ask a lady's age), work, families and our life struggles. It was just like the two of us in our own world knowing each other.
She started asking me about my age and then going to my love life, and eventually telling her that I was here because I was supposed to marry this girl and so on. An old story and she asked me, if I still love her, and I resoundingly said... NO! It's been 5 years and friendship also is non-existent for me. I was hurt and that is why until now I am still single.
Then comes our lives with our parents and eventually she opened up about her life struggles with her parents. As her parents want her to do something she don't like to do and she doing what she wanted to do in her life. It was difficult for her and her life have been stressed because of her relationship with her parents.
My advice: Life are full of challenges, you have been independent after your relationship with your parents got sour, but you succeeded. Though arguments arise of what you want to be doing and what your parents want you to do, what you have done for yourself and where you are now is because of your willpower and mindset of being independent.
Being independent doesn't mean we don't need our family, even as I am independent myself, I am longing for someone else to be with me, I am longing for my family at times, but most of the times, I feel happy because I PROVED TO MYSELF that I am great, I can handle the difficulties in my life alone and for that I am strong and confident. As the saying goes, "No Man Is An Island" it is TRUE, even you are independent you will need someone else to be with you. So, don't stress yourself if you long for your family when you are alone, because it will happen, BUT believe in yourself that you are independent, that you are strong. You have already proven to yourself that you are! So, don't be stressed when you long for your family.
The best thing you can give your parents is not the material things, though it is great to give them a gift on a special occasion. This is to share what you have gained from your hard work and give back to your parents in a small way the hardships they had for you.
So, the best thing you can give your parents is to call them randomly, without any occasion or event, just on a normal day. Pick up the phone, and tell them "Dad/Mom, Thank you for everything that you have done and sacrificed for me, I love you." And that's it!
I know when you do this to your parents, they will be asking you, what happened to you, are you sick or whatever thing they can say, but in their hearts, they will be crying for joy and happiness because you have shared your love with them wholeheartedly.
I know it's hard to do this and say those words because of your ego, so let go of all the ego inside of you, remove all the anger (if you have), remove all the negative feelings you have, if you do this, you will be able to tell those words from the bottom of your heart. Remember, call your parents and say THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU. It will make a lot of difference for you and your parents in the future.
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For me, I have told them, I lost my mother, and I miss her so much! I know she knows that I love her. Until now, I still regret not being with her on her last breath. I'm sorry, I have failed you as your son. I am sorry for what I have done, I am sorry for not being there. Thank you for giving life to me, thank you for being there for me, thank you for all your hardships, thank you for your love. thank you for being my Nanay. I love you and I miss you Nanay.
Tatay, as Nanay left us, I hope that you take care of yourself and stay strong. Thank you for everything you have done for me, thank you for all the things you have provided me, thank you the life lessons you gave me, thank you for your love, thank you for being my Tatay. I love you Tatay.
While having our dinner tonight, with her chicken rice and my chicken kunyit with rice while eating with our hands, we talked about a few things in our lives including our love life (or lack thereof for my side), my age (well, for me I don't usually ask a lady's age), work, families and our life struggles. It was just like the two of us in our own world knowing each other.
She started asking me about my age and then going to my love life, and eventually telling her that I was here because I was supposed to marry this girl and so on. An old story and she asked me, if I still love her, and I resoundingly said... NO! It's been 5 years and friendship also is non-existent for me. I was hurt and that is why until now I am still single.
Then comes our lives with our parents and eventually she opened up about her life struggles with her parents. As her parents want her to do something she don't like to do and she doing what she wanted to do in her life. It was difficult for her and her life have been stressed because of her relationship with her parents.
My advice: Life are full of challenges, you have been independent after your relationship with your parents got sour, but you succeeded. Though arguments arise of what you want to be doing and what your parents want you to do, what you have done for yourself and where you are now is because of your willpower and mindset of being independent.
Being independent doesn't mean we don't need our family, even as I am independent myself, I am longing for someone else to be with me, I am longing for my family at times, but most of the times, I feel happy because I PROVED TO MYSELF that I am great, I can handle the difficulties in my life alone and for that I am strong and confident. As the saying goes, "No Man Is An Island" it is TRUE, even you are independent you will need someone else to be with you. So, don't stress yourself if you long for your family when you are alone, because it will happen, BUT believe in yourself that you are independent, that you are strong. You have already proven to yourself that you are! So, don't be stressed when you long for your family.
The best thing you can give your parents is not the material things, though it is great to give them a gift on a special occasion. This is to share what you have gained from your hard work and give back to your parents in a small way the hardships they had for you.
So, the best thing you can give your parents is to call them randomly, without any occasion or event, just on a normal day. Pick up the phone, and tell them "Dad/Mom, Thank you for everything that you have done and sacrificed for me, I love you." And that's it!
I know when you do this to your parents, they will be asking you, what happened to you, are you sick or whatever thing they can say, but in their hearts, they will be crying for joy and happiness because you have shared your love with them wholeheartedly.
I know it's hard to do this and say those words because of your ego, so let go of all the ego inside of you, remove all the anger (if you have), remove all the negative feelings you have, if you do this, you will be able to tell those words from the bottom of your heart. Remember, call your parents and say THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU. It will make a lot of difference for you and your parents in the future.
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For me, I have told them, I lost my mother, and I miss her so much! I know she knows that I love her. Until now, I still regret not being with her on her last breath. I'm sorry, I have failed you as your son. I am sorry for what I have done, I am sorry for not being there. Thank you for giving life to me, thank you for being there for me, thank you for all your hardships, thank you for your love. thank you for being my Nanay. I love you and I miss you Nanay.
Tatay, as Nanay left us, I hope that you take care of yourself and stay strong. Thank you for everything you have done for me, thank you for all the things you have provided me, thank you the life lessons you gave me, thank you for your love, thank you for being my Tatay. I love you Tatay.
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